Controversial Bar Conversation

I had a couple of my favourite regular boys in last night and they can drink everytime they come in they drink atleast a bottle of rum between the two of them. About half way through a bottle one of the boys started a quite interesting a controversial conversation regarding his marriage...It really got me thinking about relationships and marriage and if they can survive the 21st century the stats say the chances are slim...I'm not entirely sure how the conversation started but....he spoke about being married and how he has cheated on his wife before, how he wouldn't mind if they both agreed to sleep with other people but also how he would never tell her he cheated on her because she would walk...so this makes me ask Why stay then? Why cheat on someone and then still want to stay with them? His response was that he liked coming home to someone familiar....which is a bit of a cop out I believe BUT they haven't had sex for 6 months and their relationship is just coasting away, boring (his words) no spontaneity, so I ask why don't you get spontaneous do something different his response if he does something spontaneous his wife gets suss on him and thinks he has done something wrong...It was quite the interesting conversation but you can never make a opinion unless you know both sides of the story...

I think when situations like this arise in relationships it's never one sided and both parties involved are probably feeling exactly the same...so TALK people TALK if you're not happy in your relationship I'm sure your partner probably isn't either in the end what have you got to lose something that is already struggling and unhappy just be open and honest and have a conversation it will probably save your marriage and you will both be happier in the long run and your most likely feeling and thinking the same things.....

Why and at what point in a relationship do we stop communicating and start hiding our feelings from the person we are meant to love the most??? Why are we so afraid to have a conversation and lay it all on the table??? When do we lose that connection and start looking at each other differently???  How can you make a relationship last for 10, 20, 30, 40, 50 years???

I would love to hear others views on this, do you feel the same? How long have you been in a relationship? married? and how do you make it work? Do you think you need to have a conversation with your significant other?